We all give and receive love in different ways and giving and receiving love for ourself is no different. And while we may have a preferred love language, knowing what we need at any one time and giving that to ourself is hugely rearding. I have shared some of my ideas in ways we can show ourself that we love ourself, but there is no right and wrong here.
The point is to do things that you love, for you. Do them knowing you are the most important person in your life. I’d love to hear some of your ideas, please share in the comments.
Love always wins.
Do Lovely Things For Yourself
Knowing how you give and receive love, can strengthen your journey to self-love.
When you know what lights you up and makes you feel loved, you can then meet this need for yourself, rather than expecting others to meet this need. Think about what you can do for you today to show yourself you love you.
Here are a few of my ideas, but the important thing is that you get to know you and honour what feels loving for you
Enjoy Loving Yourself
Giving ourself love gestures not only builds our self-love but makes life more enjoyable. It may seem a strange idea if you’re used to having these needs met by others, or not having them met at all, but it really is a lot of fun and helps us get to know ourself more.
As a giver I used to spend a lot of time making these kinds of gestures for others, and often felt quite dejected when they weren’t appreciated or reciprocated. I was often giving to others what I wanted, not what they wanted. Which really just gets messy!
There’s nothing more powerful than a person who can meet their own needs
Spend Time With Yourself
It’s easy to think of course I spend time with myself, who else am I with? But are we really present with ourself, or do we fill the time distracting ourselves?
I realised that I felt like I’d given myself much more attention, when I turn my phone off during a movie, or when I snuggle up with a book. When I commit fully to enjoying time with myself, I feel better. Make spending quality time with you part of your journey to more self-love and feel your cup fill up.
Make Time to Pamper Yourself
During the last year in the UK we’ve spent more time at home alone than ever before and with this has come more PJ days, less haircuts, massages and getting dressed up. And there’s part of me (not the main part, I’m quite happy in a hoody and trainer) that misses getting dressed up, being a bit glam, so as part of my journey into more self-love I have chosen to honour myself and get dressed up every now and then.
What would make your inner child happy? Ask them what they need, and if it’s a little bit of pampering make some time, I’m sure you won’t regret it.